The curse of knowledge, Wikipedia states, “is a cognitive bias that occurs when an individual, communicating with other individuals, unknowingly assumes that the others have the background to understand.”
That’s my problem when trying to communicate with Bernie and Chris. I read lots of books and go to lectures and view videos on how to communicate with dogs and people. Both are social animals.
I’m elevated to a level of awareness and sophistication that swells my head.
It has resulted in unintended consequences. The books, lectures, and videos help in communicating with Bernie and Chris. But I’m having trouble communicating with humans.
It’s a simple thing. When I know a lot about a subject, I say too much. Asked what the time is, I’m liable to start telling you how to build a clock.
Okay, okay it’s not quite that bad. However, I do tend to talk too much.
It’s worse when it comes to trying to converse with women. I know I’m not alone in this bias.
This entire man-women thing hit me because Sunday was Mother’s Day.
More than twenty years ago, Author John Gray, with his international bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus “helped couples deepen their intimacy and rejuvenate their love.”
Not to oversimplify, but when his bombshell book was released, my life was fairly simple. I was a problem solver.
I aligned with most men because Gray identified twelve male characteristics, some of which I excel: Independent, Analytical, and Goal-oriented are three characteristics.
I recently purchased John Gray’s new book, Beyond Mars and Venus. The book’s cover blurb nailed it.
“But the world has changed. Today, what it means to be a man or a woman is more nuanced and complex than ever. Both men and women are now freer to move beyond the restrictions of traditional gender roles to embrace their authentic selves.”
Mark Twain coined “The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog.”